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Specific Good Qualities to Have in a Marriage – (Part 2)

These are some of Solomon’s features that his wife called to her mind and praised (see Song of Solomon 5:14-16):

He was strong in authority. A king’s position was often revealed by the side jeweled bands of gold that he wore on each arm, a sign of his strength in leadership over a nation, people, or empire. Solomon had great bearing in his role as king.

He was a “manly man” to his wife, strong in leadership and authority in their relationship. That in no way left room for abuse. I have counseled women who have come to me with bruises on their arms and faces. I want to amputate the arms of the men who have hurt them! Solomon was strong in authority, but he was never a bully. He led by example, not by demand.

He was spiritually strong. Strength of spirit was—and continues to be—associated with strength in the abdominal area. The “belly” area has long been considered by the Jewish people to be the locus of one’s eternal spirit. Solomon exerted spiritual leadership in their home.

He as like a strong rock, a marble statue that could not be moved readily. Furthermore, the statue was set on a base of gold. Solomon’s character was established on eternal things of utmost value. In the eyes of his wife, Solomon was grounded on the Word of God, and he could not be moved from his position before the Lord.

He was physically strong. Physical strength is repeatedly associated with a person’s legs and the ability to stand strong in the face of assault, battle, or calamity.

He stood tall on the inside as well as the outside, just as the cedars of Lebanon grew to great heights and were among the noblest of trees. Solomon had a bearing about him of self-confidence and self-esteem because he knew who he was in God’s eyes.

His words were spoken with kindness—his mouth was a source of sweetness toward her.

We’ll see her response to the qualities next week.

My Question For You: Which of the qualities described above do you display to your spouse?

My Challenge For You: Pick one of the qualities listed above that you need to work on and make an effort to exhibit to your spouse.

Want to watch the SOS Tommy Nelson Study? You can buy the DVD Series here or Rent one Session at a Time here.

By hubadmin|May 26th, 2010|Song of Solomon, Tommy Nelson|0 Comments

Behind the scenes at filming of Ruth

We have just completed our filming on the book of Ruth with Tommy Nelson. We are pumped. Tommy, Senior Pastor of Denton Bible Church, and long time teacher for The Hub did an amazing job.

This was a special filming for many reasons. The book, this picture of Ruth, her character, the model she is, and then the raw love story behind her and Boaz and then the picture of Christ redeeming us, just like Boaz redeemed Ruth. All the ingredients for the ultimate Hollywood Classic.

Also, the location. Wow, City Church International, www.citychurchintl.org, is a very special place both in architecture and more importantly the body of Christ that fills that building. The building is a 1917 church built by the Congregationalist. Very European in its wood work and amazingly unchanged these past 93 years.

Here is just one of the behind scenes pics we will start to release.

As for a dad, that’s me, the dude with all the gray hair, but more importantly, that is my oldest daughter, KK, who wanted a ‘work day’ with dad. Of course this work day lasted until about 2AM! You can’t tell it here, but she is actually asleep standing up.

Ruth will release on August 23, 2010. Be praying for Matt Coleman, www.unblindproductions.com, as he does post and graphic work on the project.

Also, if you want to suggest a tag line and chance to win a free DVD Box Set of Ruth, click here.

Blessings on you!

Doug Hudson

By doug|May 25th, 2010|Browse Selection, Find Your Study, Tommy Nelson|1 Comment

Create a Tag Line for Ruth and Win

We have just finished filming our next Bible Study on the Book of Ruth featuring Tommy Nelson. It will release on August 23, 2010 and we want your help creating a tagline. Example Taglines: Ruth | A Picture of Christ or The Book of Ruth | Where You Go, I Go.

If we pick your tag line, then you get to pick any of our studies absolutely free and receive a copy of the Book of Ruth when it comes out.

Contest ends June 4th and all you need to do to win is enter your suggestion in the comment box below.

Enter as many times as you want. Void where prohibited. Must be 18 years old to enter.

By hubadmin|May 21st, 2010|Tommy Nelson|54 Comments

Tommy Nelson – Specific Good Qualities to Have in a Marriage

These are some of Solomon’s features that his wife called to her mind and praised (see Song of Solomon 5:10-13):

He was pure in his motives and behaviors toward her. Repeatedly she referred to him as white, including white as ivory and white as marble.
He was extremely handsome—more handsome even than ten-thousand other men combined.
His head (in this case his mind) was filled with wisdom more valuable than gold.
He was respected even though he was youthful. His hair was black, with no evidence of the weakness of age. Sin is often pictured in the Bible as the weakness of aging. (see Hosea 7:9.)
He was gentle; his eyes were soft and tender toward her.
He was sober. The whites of his eyes were white, not reddened by alcohol or debauched living.
He had a steadfast gaze and clear outlook toward her. His eyes were “fitly set,” which means they were wide open and focused on her. He saw her, and her alone, among all other women. It is also a reference to the fact that Solomon did not have a shifty look in his eyes; his eyes did not narrow in anger or mistrust, they never openly flared in anger, and they were never bored into dullness. They were eyes of immutable kindness and unchanging blessing toward her.
He was compassionate toward her. When he held her in his arms, cheek to cheek, there was a sweetness in his expression of love. When he kissed her, he did so tenderly and sweetly. He dealt with her in a forgiving, tender, romantic, and loving way at all times.

We’ll cover some more next week.

My Question For You:

Which of the qualities described above do you display to your spouse?

My Challenge For You:

Pick one of the qualities listed above that you need to work on and make an effort to exhibit to your spouse.

Want to watch the SOS Tommy Nelson Study? You can buy the DVD Series here or Rent one Session at a Time here.

By hubadmin|May 19th, 2010|Hub Thots, Song of Solomon, Tommy Nelson|0 Comments

Tommy Nelson – Submission

One of the most effective responses I’ve ever heard given to a husband who erred in his behavior was one that a wife gave after hearing a sermon about Jesus and Pilate. Pilate said to Jesus, “Do you not know that I have power to crucify You, and power to release You?” Jesus replied, “You could have no power at all against Me unless it had been given you from above” (John 19:10-11). From that moment on, Pilate sought to find a way to release Jesus because he recognized that he, indeed, was under God’s authority.

This young woman said to me, “When my husband makes a decision or embarks on an activity that I know is wrong, I just say to him, ‘Do what you want. You are under God’s authority, and I trust God to deal with you.’”. That’s called submission with a wallop to it! The truth remains, however. All of us are under the authority of someone, and in the marriage chain of command, a husband is under the authority of God. A wife is wise to trust God to manifest His authority in her husband’s life rather than to attempt to take on that role for herself.

My Question For You: How do you feel about submission?

My Challenge For You: We all have to submit to someone, so be wise when people submit to you or you submit to someone else.

Want to watch the SOS Tommy Nelson Study? You can buy the DVD Series here or Rent one Session at a Time here.

By hubadmin|May 11th, 2010|Song of Solomon, Tommy Nelson, Weekly Devos|0 Comments

Tommy Nelson – Why Revenge is a Bad Idea

I heard a priceless story about revenge one time. A woman asked her husband one morning to zip up the back of her dress. He began to play around with the zipper in a flirtatious way—zipping it up and down, up and down—and in the process, the zipper broke. She had just had the dress dry-cleaned and was late for a meeting, and there she stood with a “broken” dress. She was furious.

About 5:30 that evening, she returned home, still angry over her husband’s behavior that morning. She found her husband working on his car, lying underneath the car from his waist up, the lower part of his body sticking out and temptingly accessible. He didn’t seem to hear her as she approached, so she reached down and grabbed the zipper on the front of his jeans and began to zip it up and down just as he had done with her dress that morning. Then she walked into the house.

To her astonishment, her husband was standing in the kitchen. She said, “What are you doing in here?” He said, “What do you mean? It’s our kitchen.”

She said, “You were under the car just two seconds ago.”

“No,” he said, “I haven’t been under the car at all.”

“Well, who is out there in our garage working under your car?”

“It’s the next-door neighbor,” he said. “The muffler was coming off and he volunteered to fix it, so I told him I’d really appreciate his help and I came in here to fix a glass of tea for him when he’s finished.”

His wife went pale as a white sheet. She admitted to her husband what she had done, and they both hurried out to apologize to the man. They found the guy lying totally still. He didn’t respond to their calls, so they pulled him out from under the car by his legs. When he came to, they discovered that he had done what any man would have done if someone suddenly grabbed the zipper to his pants. He sat straight up, and bam, he hit his head on the underside of the car with such force that he knocked himself out!

All acts of revenge need to be left to God. Strange and terrible things can happen when you take retaliation and vengeance into your hands, and none of them are good.

My Question For You: Do you ever want to exact revenge on your spouse for their actions? Has it ever gotten you into trouble?

My Challenge For You: Don’t let revenge even cross your mind when it comes to your spouse.

By hubadmin|May 5th, 2010|Conflict, Tommy Nelson|1 Comment

Ask God to Make a Change

There was no manipulation whatsoever in the scene in Song of Solomon 5:6-8. There was no bargaining—“you do this for me and I’ll do that for you.” Bargaining results in manipulation, not ministry.

A woman asked me after I had presented the information in this chapter, “If I can’t leave him, can I kill him? No, you can’t do that either!

But you can continue to love your spouse and to pray for your spouse. Ask God to do what you cannot do, and that is to change the human heart and transform the human mind.

State what you feel you must state, make whatever requests you believe are right to make, put forth your case as best you can make it, but don’t attempt to force a change in your mate. Leave that up to God.

My Question For You: Is there something that you want to change in your spouse (or maybe something your spouse wants to change in you)?

My Challenge For You: Leave the changing part up to God.

Want to watch the SOS Tommy Nelson Study? You can buy the DVD Series here or Rent one Session at a Time here.

By hubadmin|April 28th, 2010|Conflict, Tommy Nelson|2 Comments

Live Webcast Featuring Tommy Nelson – Overcoming Depression

Tommy is doing a live webcast on “Overcoming Depression” with Focus on the Family on Wednesday, April 28, 2010 at 1:00 p.m. CST. To view it, go to www.focusonthefamily.com/webcasts.

If you go to www.focusonthefamily.com, you’ll see a green circle that says “Your Family Live.” That will take you there too. You can watch it live, or if you wait until about 3:30 MT, it’ll be archived on the Focus on the Family website.

Then, on Thursday, May 6, 2010, the National Day of Prayer, Family Talk with Dr. James Dobson will be broadcasting Tommy’s “America: The Grand Idea.” Family Talk with Dr. James Dobson is broadcast locally on Dallas/Greenville 90.5 KTXG-FM at 6:30 a.m.

If you are not familiar with Family Talk with Dr. James Dobson, it is a new ministry of Dr. and Mrs. Dobson that makes its broadcast debut on Monday, May 3rd. You can find out more information on their website at http://myfamilytalk.com.

By hubadmin|April 27th, 2010|Tommy Nelson|0 Comments

When Teasing Goes Bad

Early in our marriage, my wife was lying in bed one morning, and I said, “Teresa, get up and fix me some breakfast!” I was teasing her, but my words didn’t exactly come out in the teasing way that I meant for them to sound. At the same time I spoke those words, I picked up a metric stick that I owned, a four-sided stick with a steel border on one side, and I cracked that stick down on what I thought was a lump in the sheets. It was my wife’s leg! I had hit her hard. I saw her eyes puddle up with tears of pain, and I immediately fled to the kitchen in contrition, determined to serve my wife breakfast in bed!

I popped the top off the orange juice container, and in my hurry to make amends for my bad behavior; I poured orange juice down my front. At that point, Teresa walked into the kitchen, and I turned toward her, covered in orange juice and said, “You prayed for that.” She sweetly said, “Come here, Sweetheart,” inviting me for a comforting hug, but as I turned toward her, I hit my head on the corner of the cabinet, and suddenly there was blood trickling down from my forehead and mingling with the spilled orange juice. I was a mess.

Did I ever again attempt to tease my wife about fixing my breakfast, using a metric stick to emphasize my point? No way. For her part, Teresa was kind enough never to bring up the matter again. She knew God had dealt with me in a better way than she ever could have.

My Question For You:

Has something similar to this ever happened to you? Were you the teaser or the teased?

My Challenge For You:

Consider what you say wisely when you decide to tease!

Want to watch the SOS Tommy Nelson Study? You can buy the DVD Series here or Rent one Session at a Time here.

By hubadmin|April 21st, 2010|Conflict, Song of Solomon, Tommy Nelson|0 Comments

Don't Nag

No matter how you feel the Lord prompting you to respond to a conflict, you should feel remorse that any type of conflict has occurred. You are to lament the fact that the marriage relationship has suffered an injury, regardless of what happened or who was responsible for initiating the conflict. The woman felt the full sting and pain of what she had done (see Song 5:6-8).

Solomon did not inflict the pain upon her; it was the “watchmen,” the faithful guardians of God’s people. If your spouse wrongs you, give God some time to work in your mate’s heart. Let God have an opportunity to deal with the conscience of your spouse. Your role is not to have that of the Holy Spirit in your spouse’s life. My role as a husband is to teach my wife what I know to be true, love her tenderly, care for her, and provide for her all that she needs, but I am not her Savior, her divine Spirit of truth, or her Comforter and Counselor. Only the Lord can fill those roles.

I have counseled many couples in which either the husband or the wife continually nags the other about what the other does wrong before the Lord. These beleaguered nagged spouses can’t hear the voice of the Lord because the spouse is talking so loudly! They feel manipulated, put upon, and downtrodden. My advice to the nagging spouse is to keep quiet and let God work. It’s amazing how God moves into a person’s life. Truly His ways are higher than man’s ways, and His methods are not only very creative but extremely effective!

My Question For You: Has nagging broken in to your relationship? Are you the nag or are you being nagged? How do you feel about that?

My Challenge For You: Don’t nag. It surely won’t help your relationship. Let the Holy Spirit work.

Want to watch the SOS Tommy Nelson Study? You can buy the DVD Series here or Rent one Session at a Time here.

By hubadmin|April 14th, 2010|Tommy Nelson, Weekly Devos|0 Comments

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