After reviewing the qualities of her husband as listed in Song of Solomon 5:10-16 Solomon’s wife concluded: “He is altogether lovely.  He is everything I want in a husband.” God truly changed her heart, as her husband was kind in the face of wrong.  In the light of her newly awakened awareness of all the good qualities in her husband, she had a strong desire to be the wife he longed to have. The woman is a fine example of what God does in transforming a person’s attitude.  FiRead More....

A Continued Pursuit in Love Continuing from last weeks thoughts, how do they square with my earlier advice that you not let certain things build up inside you until you feel an explosion coming on? Very easily. It is up to you to give weight to a situation or circumstance that you perceive to be a conflict. Some things are not worthy of emotional battles or open conflict. Other things that should be addressed need to be addressed in the right time and place, with the rRead More....

On Valentine's Day in LA  there were two premieres: The Valentine's Day movie and Truth According to God on Love, Sex, and Marriage. In downtown LA on Broadway, the heart of culture influencing media, the gospel of Jesus Christ and His design for romantic relationships was communicated. Pastor Mark Driscoll shared from the Bible, his heart, and his experience as a pastor on how God is the creator of our bodies and souls and just how messed up our lives can get when we try and figure out sexRead More....

Last week we left our discussion with being slow to anger and not reacting like the person who has hurt you so that you resolve your conflict.  Maybe you are saying, “But you said previously, Tommy, that I should not stifle my feelings and that I should express them freely in my marriage.”  That’s absolutely correct, but how and when you express your feelings, and with what underlying motive and attitude, are very important. Express yourself, yes, but wait until your emotional temperaRead More....

Guess what? These 3 words are in the top 50 of all internet topics being blogged about, searched for on Google, Youtube, podcast, and any other traditional or new communication method. My question for you is simple. Why? Why do we have more access to information than we have ever had before and yet the core issues, Romance and Relationships, Religion, Politics and Money? Are you content with how much money you have/make?  Was your childhood with religion a positive or negative thing?  DiRead More....

As we continue our series on conflict, what an opportunity many of us will have this Christmas. :) Yes, we all know family is a blessing and wonderful, but quite honestly, most of us know it can be very stressful as well. Here are a couple of reminders as we enter what should be restful, sweet, good, memory making times. 1. Take a deep breath - Is what your mother, brother, or sister-n-law said, or going to say really worth ruining the sweet time you have? I know that words are extremely pRead More....

Friends, we have been praying for Matt Chandler, friend of The Hub and Pastor of The Village Church in Dallas, TX. The pathology report is back and the tumor was malignant and they were not able to remove it all. For a full report from The Village, go here. This is very difficult. For Matt, Lauren, their kids, family and for The Village. Not in my life have I seen God raise up so much love for a preacher in such a short time than I haRead More....

In response to Caryn's question: Caryn and her husband just had their first child and are now struggling with connecting physically, emotionally and spiritually. Her final comment/question is: Is it possible to still be madly in love with your spouse and enjoy being parents? Caryn, YES! Guess what's next...WORK. First things first. I think you need to slow down a bit, step back and let soRead More....

Friends, Our dear friend Matt Chandler is in a fight. For those of you who don't know, here is the link to The Village Church website to get the latest updates. Matt is a friend and the teacher of our brand new series on Philippians. The title of his series is the epic verse in Philippians, To Live is Christ and to Die is Gain.  Clearly a description for the journey Matt is on right now and of course it is the description for everyone of ourRead More....

Conflict Series: Conflict During the Three Stages of Marriage (Part 5) Conflict usually is minimal during the first stage of a marriage, which is the honeymoon period. Honeymoon literally refers to a “sweet month.” It marks the period from one stage of the moon to the next time that stage of the moon occurs. In a marriage, the honeymoon period is the period of sweetness and kindness between two spouses, a time when all things seem new and fresh and exciting—about thirty days. The Read More....

For a first week of questions you guys really did not waste any time. Of course, when we are experiencing pain, time is of the essence, right! In thinking about which direction to go in my response, I tried to think about one of the issues brought up that may affect the most people. I just spent some time with family over the Thanksgiving holiday, as I am sure many of you did, which of course is a whole other topic, right? So who is going to give me counsel on that one? But, here is a poiRead More....

The Austin Worth The Wait was an amazing success thanks to God and His Best for love, dating and sex. With leadership from Jon Moton, Lara Baliff, speakers, Goodie Goodloe and John Wills, this most amazing love story of how a man and woman should meet, date and when and how to enjoy intimacy was told. There were over 800 students and 400 parents. That's what I would call a room full of lives that now have heard the truth straight from God's heart on these issues. One of the strongest cRead More....