Comments on: Is Your Bedroom En Gedi? http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/ Moving Truth Forward Wed, 28 Jul 2010 12:31:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Gen http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-1158 Gen Tue, 02 Feb 2010 06:14:18 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-1158 What Mark said about Engedi at the conference in Minneapolis this week really affected us. We have been in a variety of co-sleeping arrangements with our four kids for almost all of our 7 years of marriage. At times it was necessary for us to get any sleep. We have faced huge trials as a couple, most recently surviving cancer (me), losing a baby, and dealing with a life-threatening - and altering - illness in one of our small children. However, Mark's teaching was the kick in the pants we needed to change our sleep situation. In two days, we have instituted a new sleeping arrangements and routines for everyone in the house, and we have hope - like Doug promised in one of opening sessions - that God will use our prayerful decision to bless everyone in the house, our kids included. Thanks for helping us establish Engedi in our home - we already love it! What Mark said about Engedi at the conference in Minneapolis this week really affected us. We have been in a variety of co-sleeping arrangements with our four kids for almost all of our 7 years of marriage. At times it was necessary for us to get any sleep. We have faced huge trials as a couple, most recently surviving cancer (me), losing a baby, and dealing with a life-threatening – and altering – illness in one of our small children. However, Mark’s teaching was the kick in the pants we needed to change our sleep situation. In two days, we have instituted a new sleeping arrangements and routines for everyone in the house, and we have hope – like Doug promised in one of opening sessions – that God will use our prayerful decision to bless everyone in the house, our kids included. Thanks for helping us establish Engedi in our home – we already love it!

]]> By: Jane http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-1154 Jane Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:15:33 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-1154 A cell phone next to the bed is a fox in the bedroom. Suddenly, being off limits while you are sleeping with your spouse in the privacy of your own bedroom no longer applies. With texting, your spouse can literally be talking to anyone while at the same time laying next to you. Also, the vibration mode of the phone may wake up one spouse repeatedly during the night while the other spouse may be able to sleep through it. A cell phone next to the bed is a fox in the bedroom. Suddenly, being off limits while you are sleeping with your spouse in the privacy of your own bedroom no longer applies. With texting, your spouse can literally be talking to anyone while at the same time laying next to you. Also, the vibration mode of the phone may wake up one spouse repeatedly during the night while the other spouse may be able to sleep through it.

]]> By: Doug http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-1037 Doug Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:12:46 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-1037 Marcee, Thank you so much for your honest and what I know is a pretty difficult situation. I don't claim to understand how to really solve the anxiety issue. Have you consulted a professional cousnelor on that topic. I think that would be my first recommendation. As to Song of Solomon being geared only for men, I do think that misses much of the beauty and balance of the Scripture. Absolutely Solomon sinned and that is really what Ecclesiastes is about and God's displeasure with Solomon pursuing his fleshly desires. But in SOS, also has such verses 'you are all together lovely' where Solomon edifies his wife. It shows his protection for her and how in chapter 1 he has made her feel more lovely. I think the overall key is a husband and wife being kind and courageous enough to have some what I know are difficult conversations, but getting some of these very key but sensitive topics out in the open. As I like to say, 'give the situation some air' to breathe. I might also encourage you and your husband to visit a good christian counselor and just maybe get the 'conversation started.' God is all about Redeeming whatever situation we are in. Life is not easy, but He is able to handle anything and everything. God is with you. Marcee,

Thank you so much for your honest and what I know is a pretty difficult situation. I don’t claim to understand how to really solve the anxiety issue. Have you consulted a professional cousnelor on that topic. I think that would be my first recommendation.

As to Song of Solomon being geared only for men, I do think that misses much of the beauty and balance of the Scripture. Absolutely Solomon sinned and that is really what Ecclesiastes is about and God’s displeasure with Solomon pursuing his fleshly desires. But in SOS, also has such verses ‘you are all together lovely’ where Solomon edifies his wife. It shows his protection for her and how in chapter 1 he has made her feel more lovely.

I think the overall key is a husband and wife being kind and courageous enough to have some what I know are difficult conversations, but getting some of these very key but sensitive topics out in the open. As I like to say, ‘give the situation some air’ to breathe. I might also encourage you and your husband to visit a good christian counselor and just maybe get the ‘conversation started.’

God is all about Redeeming whatever situation we are in. Life is not easy, but He is able to handle anything and everything.

God is with you.

]]> By: Marcee http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-1032 Marcee Thu, 19 Nov 2009 17:51:13 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-1032 One of the foxes in our bedroom is the kids. Our DD has terrible anxiety about the dark and sleeping in her own room. Our DS wants to follow what sister is doing and therefore, we have two children sleeping on our bedroom floor. DH hates it! I have to admit, I don't quite understand why SOS was included in the Bible. It is my understanding that Solomon had many wives and that during this time in history, women were not highly thought of. It seems like the book then is not a Holy example of intimacy. It also seems to be written for the advantage of men and a woman's ability to meet a mans sexual needs. One of the foxes in our bedroom is the kids. Our DD has terrible anxiety about the dark and sleeping in her own room. Our DS wants to follow what sister is doing and therefore, we have two children sleeping on our bedroom floor. DH hates it!

I have to admit, I don’t quite understand why SOS was included in the Bible. It is my understanding that Solomon had many wives and that during this time in history, women were not highly thought of. It seems like the book then is not a Holy example of intimacy. It also seems to be written for the advantage of men and a woman’s ability to meet a mans sexual needs.

]]> By: Doug http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-53 Doug Fri, 25 Sep 2009 19:16:43 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-53 Thanks everyone for your comments. We have notified the winners and look forward to seeing you next week in Austin. Thanks everyone for your comments. We have notified the winners and look forward to seeing you next week in Austin.

]]> By: Maegan http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-49 Maegan Wed, 23 Sep 2009 07:20:27 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-49 I say a true 'fox" in the bedroom is a tv. It steals time away from the one you love - and makes it much easier to focus on less important things - like trends and culture in the world today. A bedroom should be a place of rest and relaxation and a place of En Ghedi regardless of whether you're single or married! What a great msg :-) I say a true ‘fox” in the bedroom is a tv. It steals time away from the one you love – and makes it much easier to focus on less important things – like trends and culture in the world today. A bedroom should be a place of rest and relaxation and a place of En Ghedi regardless of whether you’re single or married! What a great msg :-)

]]> By: Tony Villatoro http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-47 Tony Villatoro Wed, 23 Sep 2009 02:13:47 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-47 A Fox may be just using the bedroom to sleep in and not share time with your spouse... Avoiding the bedroom until you have to go to sleep because you dont want to talk to him or her about your day.. Hoping to pass this ticket to a friend. A Fox may be just using the bedroom to sleep in and not share time with your spouse… Avoiding the bedroom until you have to go to sleep because you dont want to talk to him or her about your day..

Hoping to pass this ticket to a friend.

]]> By: Matthew http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-46 Matthew Tue, 22 Sep 2009 15:33:28 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-46 The foxes in our bedroom are a dog and cat. We lock the little foxes out and they scratch and whine at the door. Looking forward to the conference! The foxes in our bedroom are a dog and cat. We lock the little foxes out and they scratch and whine at the door. Looking forward to the conference!

]]> By: JT http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-45 JT Mon, 21 Sep 2009 14:27:46 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-45 Bringing work into the bedroom was our fox (well, okay it was MY fox). It was just so easy to fire off a few emails on the laptop. We now have a "no work in the bedroom" policy and it is working beautifully! Bringing work into the bedroom was our fox (well, okay it was MY fox). It was just so easy to fire off a few emails on the laptop. We now have a “no work in the bedroom” policy and it is working beautifully!

]]> By: JD http://www.gotothehub.com/2009/09/is-your-bedroom-en-gedi/#comment-44 JD Mon, 21 Sep 2009 03:45:50 +0000 http://www.gotothehub.com/?p=1118#comment-44 I'm way excited about this conference. Driscoll is one of my favorite guys. And Piper. And Chandler. And Carter. Yes. I’m way excited about this conference. Driscoll is one of my favorite guys. And Piper. And Chandler. And Carter. Yes.

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